Old School

There are a handful of places on the planet where the earth has created what are known as coastal dune lakes, fresh water lakes located within two miles of the ocean. They occur in Australia, Madagascar, New Zealand, South Carolina and here in Florida, more specifically, in Walton County. There were a handful of dune lakes at Topsail and a couple more at our next destination, Grayton State Park.

These lakes are more than 10,000 years old, and play an important role in making this coastline look the way it looks. Unlike most dunes, these areas have pretty good soil. When it rains hard the lakes fill and the water escapes through what’s known as an outfall, which is where the lake overwhelms the berm that separates it from the sea. When that happens fresh water floods out over the dunes, delivering nutrients, along with plants and animals that would otherwise not be on dunes.

The lakes are also individually disinct, with varying levels of salinity and different specifies of life in each one. Probably the most popular of the lakes, from what I could tell, is here in Grayton, known as Western Lake.

We were again, somehow, able to get in on some cancellations and spent four days wandering the lakeside and seashore of Grayton State Park. This time there was no RV Park, no pool and the people were mostly like us. One morning some kids from another site wandered over and started playing with our kids. Eventually the parents came by to check on their children and we got to talking. The mom told me about how she let her son, who was seven, wander wherever he wanted. He’d walked to the beach (about a mile) the day before.

I was impressed because I often feel like we’re the only people who let our kids do that sort of thing. But then the woman expressed my one great fear, that some meddling adult would end up calling the cops or otherwise harrassing our kids about doing their own thing. It’s never actually happened, but I’m constantly worried about it given the average American’s inability to mind their own damn business. Neither of us had any solution, but it was at least comforting to know that other parents have the same concerns.

Eventually the other family had to go (our kids have an unfortunate knack for making friends with kids that are leaving that day).

Not ten minutes later some woman came up to Corrinne talking about some kids she had seen “just walking down by the water” and how “someone should be watching them.” Luckily for that woman she talked to Corrinne who shrugged and politely turned away. I’m not nearly as polite.

Another blog I read regularly writes quite a bit about this meddling phenomena in other contexts and has suggested reviving the Anti-Poke-Nose society in response to people who can’t seem to stop from poking their noses in other people’s business. I’d love join. And seriously world, if no one’s bleeding, just stay the hell out of my kids’ business.

Free ranging children wasn’t the only old school thing we did at Grayton. One day we even managed to go super old school and spend all day in the sun, like I did growing up, a good six hours of sunshine, back when we weren’t scared of the sun. We still aren’t.

There were plenty of sandcastles built, water fights had, and games of freeze tag played. And yes, we all got a little bit of a sunburn, but I’m pretty sure we’ll live. And that night, everyone, even me, was asleep before the sky had even gone dark.

stingrays, grayton beach state park, florida photographed by luxagraf
If you look closely you can see a couple of the stingrays that cruised up and down the beach all day long.

8 Comments

DREW ELDRIDGE April 09, 2018 at 3:04 p.m.

Title your book “Free Ranging Children”

Love it.

Scott April 09, 2018 at 3:40 p.m.

@Drew-

I like that, but it already has a title I like a little bit more.

Rick McQuiston April 14, 2018 at 1:56 p.m.

I am a resident on Alligator Lake, suburb of Grayton State park. Here is a reply to Athenian Arva Weinstein who sent me the link to Luxagraf:

Interesting is an understatement. Particularly Old School, right here at home.

What a guy! Scott Gilbertson is very much the Renaissance man — photographer, bird watcher, wood-working craftsman, courageous nomad who would travel deserts and mountains in an antique motor home, a father who is not raising PC snowflake snotnoses (free range children). Not to mention, having a fine way with words.

I’ve read much of Luxagraf and intend to read more. Their travels have taken them to many places near and dear to us.

Arva, I’ll bet you have many stories to tell about this guy and his family.

Thanks, bigtime. I will share with many, beginning with friends here on the Emerald Coast, no longer the pristine Redneck Riviera you recall.

Scott April 18, 2018 at 10:23 a.m.

@Rick-

Thanks, that’s a nice thing to say. I’m glad you like the site and any friend of Arva’s in a friend of ours.

Gwen August 10, 2018 at 3:14 p.m.

We just spent a few days in Panama City Beach. We’d never been to that part of Florida before and wouldn’t stay in Panama City again. I was looking back and reading your posts from that area of Florida. On our last day we drove by Grayton State Park. Looks like a nice area. That’s where we would go if we came back again. We did love seeing the sea life in the Gulf. Your picture here of the stingrays turned out much better than the one I took last week!

Scott August 10, 2018 at 5:25 p.m.

Gwen-

Panama City Beach is the first place I ever went down here, and I went for spring break no less. I think everyone should do it at least once, but yes there are much nicer places. Grayton is nice, but if you come back go to St. George Island over by Apalachicola. That’s the best place on the entire Gulf side of Florida in my experience.

Gwen August 11, 2018 at 6:43 a.m.

Why do you like St. George the best? How does it compare to Grayton area?

Scott August 11, 2018 at 3:00 p.m.

Gwen-

I like it because it’s less developed. St George has very few hotels, half the island is a state park, and there’s just not much out there. I also really like Apalachicola, which is just across the bay.

The whole coastline down there is pretty similar though, there’s not a huge difference between Grayton and anywhere else within 50 miles east and west, at least in terms of the beaches. It’s all about the towns around them, I happen to like Apalachicola a lot more than the rest. There’s also St. Joseph Peninsula, which is just west of Apalachicola and really nice as well.

Thoughts?

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